I've coached business speakers to share their values by telling stories that illuminate how they live their personal and organizational values. Nothing proves your commitment to values like relating how you've acted on that commitment. Actions speak far louder than words.
Right now the value of respect is drawing my attention in my conversations and interactions with others.
Respect must be a two-way street or it doesn't exist. That means that you're as completely committed to giving it as you are to desiring it.
Want others to respect your beliefs? You must respect theirs. This doesn't mean you have to agree, or change your own, it means that you listen to what they say and then thank them warmly for sharing. That's respect.
Want others to respect your efforts? You must respect theirs. While you may not value the outcome, it is incumbent on you to appreciate and value their effort. When someone tells you how hard they worked, give them validation.
Want others to respect your needs? You must respect their needs too. At one end of the spectrum of respecting other's needs is taking action. However, you can acknowledge their needs even if you don't take action.This is accomplished by simply saying that you have heard what they need and you regret that you can't meet those needs.
Notice that the common theme here is responsiveness. Saying something, nicely, is resepct. Ignoring the other person because you're uncomfortable responding is a total lack of respect. "No thanks" is far better than silence.
How have you given respect in uncomfortable situations? Share your stories in our comment box.